When she woke up from her nap this afternoon I gave her a big hug, let her play with her sisters, and then got on her level and said, "Megan do you want to go back to diapers or continue to wear undies?" She looked at me with those big beautiful chocolaty eyes and said, "undies". I was shocked to hear her say that, but again explained to her what that meant and she said, "Ok". We are headed to the park and asked her to try before we left. She actually went. Perhaps she just needed it to be her decision and I have been making it mine. Whatever the case, I have lost my zeal and am just taking it one day at a time and hoping she will continue to want to and if not, I don't care.
So with all this stress going on I decided to do what helps me best and focus on other people. I have been making (my week project) and getting ready to send good mail and it definitely has lifted my spirits. Also after reading Elizabeth's gratitude post I was inspired to create my own because really I have more than enough things to be grateful for and I know you have better things to do than listen to me complain.
- number one being this sweet little girl of mine that makes me laugh at every turn. Oh how I love her and feel guilty for having the slightest bit of ill feelings toward her this week.
- sat/sun conference
- adam's patience
- my 3 girls
- health
- good weather
- changing attitudes
- creating
- hamburgers & fries
- smiles & hugs
- washer/dryer
- hot tub for relaxation
- blog friends
- cozy bed
- clean kitchen (thanks adam)
- a night together
Hope you have a great weekend.
19 comments:
She really is adorable and I can understand why you would feel guilty for having less than perfectly happy thoughts about her. I do the same thing with Ryley. I do get frustrated and feel SO bad for my feelings. I guess none of us are perfect or expected to be.
Love your gratitude list. Am I ungrateful if I am envious of your hot tub? :)
Potty training is so hard! I wanted to give up so many times- but Mya always would choose the undies. I had many a day of guilt and still feel bad sometimes when I think about it. Glad Megan is stickin' with it.
Your gratitude list is excellent. The hot tub caught my eye too :)
Amy, these things are still on the surface for us as we just went through potty training with our son. It seems, often, in parenting that when I finally let up and let go of that "zeal" then I find IT was actually the thing getting in the way of my parenting and preventing my children from progressing. Unfortunately, this has not been a one time lesson for me, but nearly a daily one.
I love your gratitude list.
I have been craving hamburger and fries. I might have to have my husband swing by Tommy Burger on the way home.
Those are some great things to be thankful for. I am with you on the potty training thing. K doesn't want to go back to diapers and I don't want to scrub the rugs anymore. I just keep telling myself it's not that big a deal and try not to get too emotional about it. That seems to be my mantra lately.
She does have beautiful brown eyes. My Luke has eyes like hers. You could really drown in them huh? I love your list of things that make you happy. Especially the hamburger and fries--we are eating that for dinner on Sunday :)
Have a good night.
So as a parent in the nightmare that is potty training I FEEL YOUR PAIN. Lulu did great for about a week and suddenly regressed. We had to take away her new Cinderella dress because "only big girls wear Cinderella dresses and only big girls go potty on the big girl potty". Yeah- I'm one of those parents. But, today- NO problems. She told us everytime she needed to go potty and we didn't have one accident- Hello.. what did we do differently? I think it was the same tactic- it became her choice today. I'm sure we aren't over the hump, but I'm just going to ride it out.
I understand that the zeal is gone for me too, but hopefully this was your turning point. Don't beat yourself up- life is full of too many opportunities to beat ourselves up.. ya know!
Thanks so much for your post! We have been struggling with potty training for a while now, Carter has been doing well with peeing in the potty, but he won’t poop. Then the last few days he has been having a lot of accidents and I have been at a loss as to what to do about it. I think I am going to adopt your attitude. If he wants to, great, if not, we will wait until he is ready. So, what do I do if he wants to keep going, but still won’t poop in the potty? Ahhh…the dilemmas of motherhood.
Good luck with your little angel!
Tiff
PS I am ready to start my own blog and I may be calling you for help.
If it makes you feel better, yesterday I had less than perfect feelings for my little guy, and I felt SO much guilt and anxiety over it...but I guess those things are normal. We all have those moments...but the point is we come back with so much more love, like you did today. Hang in there, let her go at her own pace and it will happen!
You're a champ for hanging in there this week and for giving Megan the choice to go back to diapers. I hope she continues to progress with her decision to stay in undies, but if not she'll get it eventually.
Can't wait to see all your projects and good mail.
Love your gratitude list. Next time I am overwhelmed, I am making a list for myself.
Potty training, ugh! What a big girl to say undies. The day it 'clicks' for good will be a day to celebrate!
I like your grateful list.General Conference would be my #1 this weekend too ;)
My baby is 8!! SO, it's been awhile since we did the 6-ply undies, but sounds wise of you to 'ask' her what she wants.At least she's still trying (whatever that means to her) She's a doll!
-ciao, Janae
I think you're on the right track. When we are so emotionally invested in it, it seems to backfire. They know, those little kids are so dang perceptive. It has to be her choice, ultimately you just can't decide for her. Hopefully if she feels in control of it things will start to go better for you both!
gratitude lists never fail to lift the spirits!
I love gratitude lists.I notice such an immediate change in my spirits if I write one. I love to read those of others too.
Good luck with the potty training, I think it will stick. It sounds like now that she chose it all is well. Maybe I had an easy time of it but I really think she will be fine and you won't have to be doing this for six more months. Think positive.
PS - it was fun to see you last week.
Amy, this has nothing to do with this blog. We posted a thank you note on our family blog for your amazing photos. Here is the website.
web.mac.com/dcnilson
Love that you made it her decision. Perhaps that is the key? After having a 6 year break in between the last two of our children - I suddenly realized that I had to do all these firsts all over again. It has been a joy. And, easier with older siblings. Perhaps that will be her ticket knowing that she can do these things because she wants to be big like her sisters!
Love the gratitude list. I need to start one...now! :-)
great gratitude list. LOVE the beautiful brown eyes. she is so beautiful-- just like her mom! :)
Unfortunately, I'm also learning that my boys do better when they decide...in many realms. So my hard job is to plant the seeds and hope they think the great ideas are their own. I understand the falling to the ground and losing zeal. But it will come back...a true ebb & flow.
In BANNERS 101, i am stumped at the Header part. Where you changed a few numbers, I can't find the area where that paragraph is listed.
Bailey
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THANK YOU!
OKay, sorry to bother once again, but I figured out how to do it(and oops I have the new template...) but i can't rid of the old header?? can you help me out again?
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Thanks Bailey
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